The massage should be a pleasant and sensual experience, and there are many things you can do to ensure it is.
First and foremost, you definitely don't want to be interrupted, so close all doors and disconnect the phones.
The next thing to know is that a good massage isn't a quick one. Be prepared to spend some time with your partner, and do everything you can to set the mood. Dim the lights, prepare a nice massage area (the sofa can work), light some massage candles, make sure the room temperature is just right, and that your hands are warm (not too hot), and play some soft, relaxing music.
How to Prepare
Have your partner take a shower or bath to relax and cleanse themselves. You can sprinkle some rose petals on the bed to scent the room, or anything that helps you set the right mood.
Introduction
Your goal in a massage is to put your partner in a state of relaxation; if they're afraid or worried, it's easy to read their body language.
Start slowly, be sensitive to your partner's responses, and adapt to them and their needs. It will be hard to go wrong if you keep this rule in mind. Rub your hands with a bit of massage oil or cream to get them warm, and then get to work.
The whole concept of massage is based on being touched, so try to maintain constant contact with your partner. As you explore their body, try to do so continuously to keep the blood flowing, as well as to increase the level of intimacy. If you're learning for the first time, or learning to please a new partner, remember that communication is very important. You don't necessarily have to ask if every move feels good, but don't be afraid to ask if they want something stronger or softer, and be sure to listen to your partner's breathing, it's an excellent indicator of how you're doing. Try to make your movements rhythmic, even, and symmetrical when you start. This will allow your partner to understand what's happening and relax even more. As you gain more experience, you'll learn tricks and movements to enhance your skills.
Where should you start the massage? Well, there's no single place to start. Practically all parts of the body (at least the areas sensitive to touch) are good. Some places are better than others, and the best are generally those that allow you to move across your partner's body continuously, but there's nothing wrong with going over the best zones more than once (check the section on erogenous and pleasurable zones in women and men) as long as you don't linger too intensely on the most sensitive areas.
Starting with a foot massage and moving upwards is one way to begin. Another way is to start with a head massage and work your way down. We want to reiterate that there's no "right" way to do the massage, so start wherever you want. Above all, you should be comfortable. Just keep experimenting. A suggestion for beginners would be to start at the shoulders, then move to the neck, scalp, and then move your fingers down to their shoulders, arms, back, lower back, buttocks, thighs, calves, and then the feet, and work your way back up again. Some areas are better for a gentle massage, others are better for deeper massages, so start testing! As you gain experience, the whole process will become more natural.
How to Use Your Hands
Once again, there's no right or wrong way! We've found that using your fingers gently on softer and more sensitive areas, and using your whole hand, especially the thumbs, works wonders on larger areas, commonly for muscle aches, like the outer thighs and shoulders. If you're ever unsure, start gently and massage deeper while carefully monitoring your partner's breathing. It won't be long before your partner thinks you're a pro.
Some people enjoy being lightly scratched (recommended), others enjoy being licked, some prefer small circular motions, others enjoy deep, hard massages, and yet others want it all together. Besides giving ideas, we can't provide a roadmap for the best massage for your partner's body, as everyone is different and responds to different stimuli. This article will be expanded soon to include some "power moves," and don't forget to check what men and women like in the blog sections to find ways to please every area of your partner's body.
The best advice we can give you is this: "know your body as well as your partner's." Those who know their partner's body best are generally the best lovers!
