Erotic kits in the USA

What are erotic kits?

It is a box with several pieces designed to be used together. It might be a vibrator with a cock ring and a lubricant, handcuffs with a blindfold and a whip, or a massage oil with a candle and some dice. It lets you try several things without buying them separately, and if one doesn't work for you, you still have the others. In couples sex toys every product is sold on its own; here everything comes in the same pack. If you are only interested in bondage and prefer to choose piece by piece, you will find it in BDSM.

Types of erotic kits

They differ in what they include and how much experience they call for.

• Romantic kit: usually includes 5 to 7 pieces, such as massage oil, a candle, a feather, a blindfold and an erotic dice. It is gentle and has no BDSM items.
• Beginner bondage kit: between 7 and 10 pieces, with handcuffs, a blindfold, a collar, a soft crop, rope and nipple clamps, for gentle power play. Some come with restraints that have a quick-release fastening.
• Premium kit: 10 to 15 pieces, with everything above plus a vibrator, lubricant, BDSM candles and a gag. It is the most complete option.
• Toy kits: several toys in the same box, such as a rabbit vibrator with a bullet vibrator, a cock ring with a prostate massager, or butt plugs with a vibrating egg.
• Games and massage kits: tower games, dice and cards, or massage oils and candles, for when you feel more like playing than using toys.
• Official Fifty Shades of Grey: kits from the franchise, high-end and presented in a gift box.

What the research says

There are no studies on kits specifically, but there are some on using toys as a couple. In a study of 11,944 people, owning a sex toy and often using it with a partner were each associated with greater relationship satisfaction. The number of toys and use only when alone did not show that association (Hald et al., 2025, J Sex Res). It is an association: it does not show that the toy is the cause.

In a cross-sectional study of 3,017 participants, 69.7% of women reached orgasm more often or enjoyed vaginal penetration more when they or their partner stimulated the clitoris with a finger or a toy during penetration (Hensel et al., 2021, PLoS One).

And in Colombia, among 1,759 women in stable relationships, 72.76% used sex toys, and their average sexual function score was somewhat higher than that of women who did not use them (29.55 versus 27.43). Here too it is an observational association (Espitia De La Hoz et al., 2025, Rev Colomb Obstet Ginecol).

Safety and cleaning

Each piece is cleaned according to its material, which is listed on the product page. Silicone and plastic: warm water and mild soap or a toy cleaner, before and after use. TPE is washed the same way, but it is porous: dry it well and, if you are going to share it, use it with a condom. Leather and faux leather: a damp cloth, without soaking them.

If you share a toy that is inserted, put a new condom on it each time it changes person: a study of 300 people identified using toys during sex as one of the risk factors for HPV infection (Chen et al., 2020, J Int Med Res). If the kit includes butt plugs, make sure they have a wide base, and use plenty of lubricant, ideally one from anal lubricants. With bondage, agree on a safe word beforehand, don't tighten the handcuffs or rope too much, and keep the key or quick-release fastening within reach.

How to choose

• What's in it: the product page lists every piece; go for the kit where you will use most of the items, not the one with the most things in it.
• Level: many kits say whether they are for beginners; if it is your first time, a romantic or beginner kit is better.
• Material: for anything that goes inside the body, silicone; for handcuffs and restraints, the product page says whether they are leather, faux leather, nylon or polyester.
• Water: if it includes a vibrator, fully waterproof (submersible) means it can handle the shower; splashproof only means it can get a little wet.
• Power: check whether the toys are USB rechargeable or take batteries.
• Fastenings: on handcuffs and restraints, look for adjustable ones with a key or quick release.

Erotic kits: frequently asked questions

How do I suggest an erotic kit to my partner?

Give it as a gift and open it together. Since it comes with several things, you don't have to suggest anything specific, and if you don't like something, there are other pieces. Choosing together what to try first is already part of the game.

Which gift kit should I choose for Valentine's Day or an anniversary?

A romantic massage kit, with oil, candles and a feather, if it is your first time with toys. If you have already tried something, a Fifty Shades of Grey kit, which comes in an elegant box ready to give as a gift.

Is a bondage kit suitable for beginners?

Yes, if it is a beginner kit: adjustable handcuffs, a blindfold, a feather or a soft crop. You don't need to use everything on the first night; start with one or two pieces, such as the blindfold and the feather, and add the rest when you feel comfortable.

Are erotic kits only for couples?

No. Most are designed for playing as a couple, but there are also kits for her with a vibrator and a massage candle, and toy kits to use on your own.

Which lubricant should I use with the toys in the kit?

One from water-based lubricant, which works with all materials. Silicone-based lubricants can damage the surface of silicone toys.

What is the difference between a kit and a couples toy?

A kit has several pieces in the same box; a couples toy is a single product designed to be used by two people, such as a vibrating ring. You can find individual ones in couples sex toys.

How do I store the pieces in the kit?

Clean, dry and separate, in their box or in a cloth bag. Keep toys made of different materials from touching each other.

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