Sex Dice in the USA

What are sex dice?

A sex die is an ordinary die where each face, instead of dots, shows an action, a body part, a position or a length of time. You roll it and chance decides what comes next, so nobody has to suggest anything or improvise on the spot. They are simple, cheap and direct, probably the most minimalist erotic toy there is, and they often arrive as a joke gift that ends up being used for real.

They are also among the adult games that sell most often in the shop, and the reason is practical. Apart from the boxed games (the SECRETPLAY one with dice and a bullet vibrator, which is the only one with a part that vibrates; Tower of Sex, a tower of 48 wooden pieces, or Play & Roulette, which comes with a roulette wheel), there is nothing to set up, they use no batteries and the rules make sense in five seconds. A die measures 2 to 3 cm on each side, so it fits in a pocket. That is why they work so well to break the ice: they add a touch of play and creativity, take away the pressure of improvising and suggest touches and challenges naturally. No study has measured the effect of dice specifically. In three studies with couples, doing new activities together that broaden each person's experience was associated with more sexual desire and, through it, with more satisfaction in the relationship (Muise et al., 2019, J Pers Soc Psychol).

If you want something with a board, turns and more rules, take a look at sex board games; if you prefer longer written challenges, try sex cards. Dice are the quickest version of all erotic games: one roll and you are playing.

Types of sex dice

Beyond the brand names, erotic dice fall into four families, and knowing this beforehand stops you buying the wrong thing. If you count every variant there are more than ten types, so not every erotic die is a kamasutra die.

Within each family there is a bit of everything, from gentle and romantic to more daring, and some sets add role play. Couples with more experience can also invent their own rules.

• Sex position dice (kamasutra dice): each face shows a position; you roll, the position comes up and you do it. They work best for couples with some physical experience. There are formats such as the SECRETPLAY 25 mm kamasutra die or the Diablo Picante Kamasutra dice, with a straight version, one for guys and one for girls.
• Action and body part dice: one die gives the verb (kiss, lick, caress, bite) and another the area, and the combination is the challenge. They are easier for couples who are getting to know each other or who would rather not jump straight into positions, like the Diablo Picante Verbo + Parte del Cuerpo dice game.
• Themed dice: gentle bondage (Fetish Submissive), group play (Party Play by SECRETPLAY, with five dice, or Party Game by Sexitive, with three), an hourglass that limits the time of each action (Chronomasutra by SECRETPLAY) or glow-in-the-dark dice for playing in the dark (Dados Sexuales KHEPER GAMES Brillo Oscuridad).
• Combined and party sets: they bring together dice with cards, a feather, a condom or glasses, and suit gifts or group play. For example, the ARIA Please Me Play game with dice and cards or the Secret Pleasures Box by SECRETPLAY, a box with two dice and a bullet vibrator.

Sex dice that tell you what to do: how to play

Before rolling, talk about what you fancy and what you would rather leave out, and agree that anyone can skip a roll. With that and a relaxed mood, the game is much more enjoyable.

Then choose dice that match how comfortable you feel: some dice give actions, others body parts and others positions. You roll and follow what comes up, which can be as simple as kissing a body part or as specific as a whole position. If a face does not convince you, swap it or roll again.

To stretch the game out you can put on music and low lighting, use a massage oil when “caress” comes up, or bring sex toys for couples into the game that the die can also choose.

The brands you will see most and how they differ

The Spanish market for erotic games is dominated by three makers with a clear proposition, and it helps to know which is which. Diablo Picante, from Spain, has the widest catalogue (positions, actions, kamasutra and specific sets for female and male couples), is the cheapest of the three and writes in Spanish. SECRETPLAY, also from Spain, goes for more careful finishes, multi-dice sets and well-made packaging, at a mid-range price and in Spanish. Kheper Games, from the United States, makes complete boxed games, party formats and glow-in-the-dark editions, mid-range, with English text and translated instructions.

Besides those three, Bijoux Indiscrets (Spain) puts a lot of care into design and presents its gifts for couples as if they were jewellery, in the mid-to-high range and with text in Spanish or several languages. Black&Silver, a Spanish importer, has very cheap sets with codes you have to decipher to find out the action, in Spanish and English. Tease & Please, from the Netherlands, makes complete board games, not just dice, designed for adult parties, in the mid-to-high range and in several languages.

Even so, more than the brand, what decides it is the couple. A set of SECRETPLAY kamasutra dice and the Diablo Picante action dice point to different couples and different nights, and choosing badly is the usual reason a set ends up at the back of a drawer.

Which dice to choose for your couple

These are the most common profiles and the type of die that suits them best.

• If you are a new couple or it is your first time with a game like this, action dice (verb and body part), without the physical pressure of positions. The Diablo Picante action die or the SECRETPLAY 3-dice game for couples are the classic way in.
• If you have some mileage and want to break the routine, position dice; the position comes up and you do it. The SECRETPLAY 25 mm kamasutra die is the reference format.
• For LGBT couples, look for dice that say so. The Diablo Picante Kamasutra dice for girls and for guys are designed with adapted positions, and are not the straight version under another name.
• For a hen or stag party, a combined set or one with special presentation, such as the Secret Pleasures Box by SECRETPLAY, with two dice and a bullet vibrator, or the ARIA Please Me Play game with dice and cards, which look good as a gift.
• For parties or threesomes, group dice such as Party Game by Sexitive, with three dice and for more than two players, Party Play by SECRETPLAY, with one action die and four for body areas, or the ARIA dice, with no limit on players and where whoever rolls decides who it is for.
• For gentle bondage or a first taste of BDSM, the Fetish Submissive dice, with faces such as “tie up”, “blindfold” or “give orders”. They are not for couples who have not yet talked about it, and it is best to agree a safe word first.
• For long sessions or games in the dark, glow-in-the-dark dice such as the KHEPER GAMES Brillo Oscuridad, which charge for a few minutes under light and then glow without it.

Materials and care

A die is not inserted and does not touch mucous membranes the way a penetrative toy does, so the material only affects how long it lasts and little else. Most are made of acrylic or injected resin, although in the product pages you will also see some in wood, silicone or plastic. What really changes is how each face is printed.

To clean them, a barely damp cloth is enough, and dry them straight away, especially if they are screen-printed. If the set comes with a bullet vibrator, edible paint or another accessory that touches the body, look after it as its own product page indicates.

• Screen printing on acrylic, as on most Diablo Picante dice. It is the cheapest option, but the ink wears off after 100-200 rolls on a hard surface; if you roll on the bed or on carpet, it lasts years.
• Resin with embedded engraving, as in the more careful SECRETPLAY and Bijoux Indiscrets sets. The instruction is inside the material and does not rub off; it tends to cost twice as much, but lasts indefinitely.
• Wood, such as the two Kamasutra dice by Out Of The Blue; the larger one measures 6 cm on each side and has a position drawn on each face. It is the large format in this section, more of a gift than a pocket item.

Mistakes when buying sex dice online

These are the most common slips when choosing, and almost all of them can be avoided by reading the product page properly.

• Buying a position set for a couple who has not tried anything yet. Half the dice end up beyond their physical or psychological reach and the set is put aside after two nights; if in doubt, start with actions.
• Overlooking the language. Some Kheper Games or Tease & Please dice have the actions in English, and if your partner does not speak it well, the game loses its rhythm.
• Assuming that “erotic dice” always means kamasutra. There are more than ten types, so read the description before adding it to your basket.
• Paying for gift packaging when it is for yourself. The luxury boxed sets from Bijoux Indiscrets are beautiful, but part of what you pay for is the presentation; for your own use, a much cheaper Diablo Picante does the same job.

How to choose

• What is on the faces: the product page says whether they are actions, body parts, positions or themed challenges (bondage, group, time); to start with, gentle actions.
• Number of dice: with one you have six clear options; with two you get 36 combinations; there are also sets of 3 and of 5 dice.
• Language: check whether the faces are in Spanish, in English, with icons or in several languages; some games are sold in a Spanish version and in an English version.
• Who it is designed for: straight couple, female couple, male couple or group; with kamasutra dice this changes almost every face.
• Size and finish: the product page usually gives the size of the die (there are 20 and 25 mm ones) and sometimes the material; an engraved face lasts longer than a printed one.
• What else is included: hourglass, cards, roulette wheel, bullet vibrator, edible paint or shot glasses, depending on the set.

Sex dice: frequently asked questions

What types of sex dice are there?

There are four main families: position dice (kamasutra), action and body part dice, themed dice and combined sets with cards or other accessories. Within each one, the instructions range from gentle and romantic to more daring, and some include role play.

Are sex dice suitable for beginners?

Yes. There are dice designed for starting out, with simple instructions and gentle actions, and they are a good way to try new dynamics without pressure.

How do you play the sex dice game?

You roll and do what comes up. With two dice, one gives the action and the other the body area; before starting, agree what is off the table and that anyone can skip a turn.

How can I make the game more interesting?

By combining the dice with other erotic toys, music and low lighting to create a more intimate mood. You can also mix different sets or add an hourglass to stretch out each action.

Do I have to follow the instructions to the letter?

No. What matters is that you are comfortable, so you can adapt what each face says to what you both fancy and roll again if something does not fit.

How many dice do I need to start?

One is enough. Sets of 2 dice (verb and body part, or position and place) give more play but take longer to get the hang of, and on the first night it is easier to start with six clear actions than with 36 combinations. In this section, around a third of the games have a single six-sided die, almost always for positions; the rest come with two (action and area, or position and place), three or more, up to the 6 dice of DICE, PLAY, SEX by SECRETPLAY.

Can you understand what the sex dice say on each face?

It depends on the set. Diablo Picante and SECRETPLAY write the full action in Spanish (“kiss”, “lick the neck”). Kheper Games uses icons that do not depend on language, although you sometimes have to check the included guide, and Bijoux Indiscrets usually puts each face in Spanish and in English.

Are they suitable for LGBT couples?

Only if they say so. Standard kamasutra dice show heteronormative positions (penis in vagina penetration), so most of the faces are of no use to a same-sex couple. Diablo Picante has two sets designed for female and male couples, with adapted positions.

Can they handle water? Can I use them in the shower?

The die can, the printing not always. Acrylic and resin withstand water, but screen printing does not, and rolling screen-printed dice on a wet surface wears the ink away sooner; for the bath or shower, a set with embedded engraving or a rigid die with engraved positions is better, such as the Dados duros by Diablo Picante.

Which dice should I give if I do not know what the other person likes?

A combined or gift set, such as the Secret Pleasures Box by SECRETPLAY, with two dice and a bullet vibrator, or the ARIA Please Me Play game with dice and cards: they bring varied things and, if something does not fit, there is still the rest. Bondage or orgy dice are better only if you have already talked about it.

Are there erotic dice for one person or only for couples?

Almost all are designed for two people. There are a few sets for playing alone, with fantasy dice for masturbation that decide the toy, position or scenario you imagine, but there are few; on your own, cards and apps from other erotic games tend to work better.

What is the difference between Diablo Picante and SECRETPLAY?

Diablo Picante has many different and cheap sets; SECRETPLAY has fewer products with better finishes and more careful packaging, at a slightly higher price. Both are Spanish and have decent quality control: for using it once in a while, Diablo Picante; for giving as a gift or playing often, SECRETPLAY.

Do glow-in-the-dark dice really work, or is it marketing?

They work, with caveats. Phosphorescent acrylic charges under natural light or a lamp for between 5 and 15 minutes, and glows for between 20 and 40 minutes in total darkness, getting weaker over time. It is enough for one session, not for the whole night.

When is a set with an hourglass worth it?

When it is harder for you to keep going with what you are doing than to decide what to do. Sets such as Chronomasutra by SECRETPLAY make you hold the action on the die for 30 or 60 seconds, and for couples who tend to go straight to the point they change the dynamic quite a lot.

Can I combine several sets?

Yes, and it is a lot of fun. A position die, a place die and a time die, or a Diablo Picante position die with a Chronomasutra, give combinations that no single set offers. That said, do not use more than 3 dice at once, because you have to memorise them and the surprise is lost.

What is the difference between dice, cards and sex board games?

The die decides by chance with a single roll. Sex cards bring longer and more varied challenges, and sex board games add a board, turns and rules.

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