Dildos in the USA

What is a dildo?

A dildo is a sex toy designed for vaginal or anal penetration, almost always without vibration: here, five in six have no motor. Compared with a vibrator, it gives a more natural, controlled feel, because you set the rhythm and the depth. You can use it by hand, stick it to a smooth surface with its suction cup, or attach it to a strap-on harness to use with a partner.

Strictly speaking a dildo does not vibrate, but here roughly one in six does: they are realistic dildos with vibration, and a few with rotation, thrusting or remote control. The brand with the most is Baile (Rockin Dong, Super Rota Dong, Adour Club), and there are also the Get Real, the flexible Diversia and the King Cock Elite with remote. The product name says so. If you want one only for anal use, in anal toys you will find butt plugs and dilators designed for that.

Types of dildos

Dildos differ mainly in shape, material and the way you use them. These are the main groups:

• Realistic dildos: they imitate the shape and texture of a penis, with defined veins and glans, and many have testicles and a suction cup.
• Glass dildos: rigid and smooth, easy to clean and good for temperature play, cold or warm. Some are handmade.
• Silicone dildos: soft, flexible and body-safe, some with dual density (firm core and soft outer layer). They are the most recommended.
• Double dildos: they have two ends, for simultaneous penetration or for use with a partner.
• Suction cup: they fix to the shower wall, the floor or a table so you can use them hands-free.
• For harness use: they have a base that fits into the harness ring, for role play or pegging.
• G-spot: they have a curve at the tip to press on the front wall of the vagina.

What the studies say

The brand LELO published in 2022 that 47% of women own at least one dildo, which would make it the second most popular intimate toy after the vibrator. This is a figure from the brand itself. In a published study of 25,294 gay and bisexual men, 78.5% had used at least one type of sex toy, and the dildo was the most mentioned: 62.1% had used one, ahead of non-vibrating cock rings (51.9%) and vibrators (49.6%) Rosenberger et al., 2012, Arch Sex Behav.

Body-safe materials for dildos

Material is the first thing worth checking. The materials usually presented as certified body-safe, that is, safe for the body, are these:

Avoid porous materials such as TPE, PVC or rubber, which can hold bacteria even after cleaning. If you still choose a TPE or TPR model, which tend to be softer, always use it with a condom and do not share it.

• Silicone: non-porous, considered hypoallergenic and easy to clean. It is known as the gold standard.
• Borosilicate glass: durable and hygienic, and it allows temperature play.
• Stainless steel: pleasantly heavy, very hygienic and lasts a lifetime.
• ABS: a hard, non-porous plastic, inexpensive and easy to clean.

How to choose the right size

The right size depends on your experience and what you like. As a guide:

You can always go up in size gradually. Starting with one that is too large can be uncomfortable.

• Beginners: 12 to 14 cm long and 2.5 to 3 cm in diameter.
• Intermediate: 15 to 18 cm long and 3 to 4 cm in diameter.
• Experienced: from 18 cm and whatever diameter you prefer.

Safety

For anal use, choose only dildos with a wide base: the anus has no stop, and the base stops the toy from going in completely. If you share the dildo, put a new condom on it for each person. In a study of 12 women, HPV was detected on vibrators after use and, in one of the two models, up to 24 hours after cleaning with a commercial product Anderson et al., 2014, Sex Transm Infect.

How to choose

• Material: if you want something easy to clean, look for silicone, glass or steel; with TPE or TPR, use a condom.
• Size: the listing gives the total length or the insertable length and the diameter; the diameter is what you notice most.
• Base: for anal use, choose a wide base or suction cup; without a base, for vaginal use only.
• Suction cup or harness: if you want it hands-free, choose one with a suction cup; for a harness, check that the listing says it is compatible.
• Firmness: glass and steel are rigid; silicone and dual-density ones give a little and adapt better.
• Water: if it vibrates, «fully waterproof (submersible)» can take the shower; «splashproof» only withstands a little water.

Dildos: frequently asked questions

Is a dildo the same as a consolador?

Yes. «Dildo» and «consolador» name the same thing, a toy for penetration; «consolador» is the traditional Spanish word.

What is the difference between a dildo and a vibrator?

The classic dildo has no motor and does not vibrate. The stimulation comes from penetration, which you control by hand, while a vibrator adds vibration. Many people prefer the dildo for its more natural feel and full control of the rhythm, although in this category one in six is a dildo with vibration, rotation or thrusting, and the name says so.

Are dildos only for women?

No. Anyone can use them. Many men use them to stimulate the prostate, always with a wide base for safety, and couples add them to their play, for example with a harness.

Which lubricant should I use with my dildo?

It depends on the material. With silicone dildos, use a water-based lubricant; with glass or steel you can use any, including silicone-based. Do not use silicone lubricant with silicone toys, because it can damage the surface.

How do I clean my dildo?

With warm water and mild soap, before and after each use. Silicone, glass and steel ones without a motor can be boiled for 3-5 minutes to disinfect them fully. Dry it well before storing it.

Can I use a dildo for anal sex?

Yes, if it has a wide base. Without a base there is no anal safety: a dildo without a base can stay inside the rectum and then you need to see a doctor. For anal use, choose models with a safety base and use anal lubricant.

Are there extreme or very large dildos?

Yes. There are large and fantasy models, 27 cm or more in length, shaped like creatures or tentacles. They are for people who already have experience: go up in size gradually and use plenty of lubricant.

Can I share my dildo?

Yes, with a new condom for each person, because washing it between uses is not always enough. If the material is porous, such as TPE or TPR, it is better not to share it.

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