Sex Toy Benefits
Research on sex toys mostly shows that using them is common and that, for vibrators, use is associated with better sexual function. For physical health, sleep or stress, the evidence is limited. In national U.S. surveys, 52.5% of 2,056 women ages 18 to 60 had used a vibrator, according to a representative online survey. In another population survey of 1,047 men ages 18 to 60, 44.8% said they had used one, alone or with a partner (Herbenick et al., 2009; Reece et al., 2009).
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Physical health: what we know
Sexual arousal increases blood flow to the genital area as part of the normal sexual response. We haven't found studies showing that a toy improves genital health.
Kegel balls are often used alongside pelvic floor exercises. If you want to treat urine leakage or recover after childbirth, ask a specialized physical therapist for guidance.
Some people say orgasm eases their menstrual cramps, but we haven't found solid studies that confirm it. If the pain is severe or keeps you from going about your normal life, talk to your doctor.
After orgasm, oxytocin and prolactin are released, hormones associated with relaxation and drowsiness. In an online survey of 778 adults from the general population, 63.1% felt they slept better when they had partnered sex before bed, and the study did not look at sex toys (Lastella et al., 2019).
Science fact: A study in the Journal of Sexual Medicine (2009) of 2,056 women found that recent vibrator users scored higher on most areas of sexual function (desire, arousal, lubrication, orgasm, pain and overall function). This is an association: the study does not prove that the vibrator causes the difference.
Emotional well-being
Explore your body and find out what you really like.
Exploring with toys helps many people feel more confident about their own pleasure.
Some observational studies find that people who are sexually active on a regular basis report less anxiety, but they don't prove that sex, much less a toy, reduces anxiety.
As a couple
To bring in a toy, you first have to talk about what you want and what you don't.
Bringing in toys is a simple way to try new things and get out of the routine as a couple.
In a sample of more than 52,000 U.S. adults, 95% of heterosexual men said they usually or always reached orgasm in sexual encounters, compared with 65% of heterosexual women (Frederick et al., 2018). The study did not look at sex toys, but it did find that women who reached orgasm more often received more oral sex, had longer encounters and tried more new things.
For many couples, toys are one more excuse to make time for each other.
Frequently Asked Questions
Are sex toys only for people without a partner?
No. In fact, many people use toys with a partner. In a national survey in Germany, 52% of 1,723 heterosexual adults said they used them during partnered sex (Döring et al., 2020).
Does using toys mean something is wrong with my sex life?
Absolutely not. Toys are an addition, not a replacement. People with satisfying sex lives use them to explore new sensations and keep the spark alive.
Can I become dependent on a vibrator?
We haven't found studies that describe an addiction to vibrators. In the survey by Herbenick et al. (2009, Journal of Sexual Medicine) use was associated with better sexual function and rarely with side effects: most women (71.5%) said they had never noticed related genital symptoms. If you notice discomfort or numbness that doesn't go away, stop using it and talk to your doctor.
Which toy is best to start with?
For beginners, we recommend a small vibrator made of medical-grade silicone. See our guide to choosing your first toy.
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